Same when it comes to carousels and the Dumbo rides.
Because I will never, ever get tired of watching Pixar movies or Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory.
I've dated some pretty swell fellas in the past that have done impressive things, but this one is successfully raising two humans into respectful little dudes.
He's responsible in a way that a lot of men aren't, and I get to see what kind of person he is by the way he interacts with his kids.
But with the bad comes the good, and my past exes did teach me a few things about what I do want in a relationship: a partner with a sense of humor, and someone who's more than willing to eat cold pizza and marathon watch/geek out over Twin Peaks with me (trust me, not many folks are willing to put up with this). He was funny, had a grown-up 9-5 job (I immediately made note of his Netflix-marathoning potential), and had ridiculous comic book tattoos.
I let the cards fall where they may and go with my gut when it comes to chemistry between me and another person. If you elect to date above your generational boundaries, it’s a reality and one that recently became mine.
The math in putting 1 1 together is hard enough; it’s an equation we spend our whole lives trying to master until at last we form a solid pair. I met someone amazing, and at the same time, met his kids (also amazing). Now, some time later and armed with a better understanding, there are a few things I wish I’d known from the get-go that might have spared me some serious mental struggle: It sounds aggressive, as though I’m telling you that dating someone with kids will ensure you’re always treated second-rate, never coming first and always neglected in some aspect for preferential love to the young ones. The kids will always come first, yes, but if he’s a catch and you’re lucky, you’ll score second place.
The kids already have a mom, a grandma, a dad, and a stepdad — they don't need another one.
One of the things that works best about my unique place in the family is that I'm not another adult voice telling the kids what to do, and I'm okay with that.