Parents also can draw a line when kids ask intrusive questions.
"The act of drawing boundaries is powerful, and parents can say, 'That's a personal question, and maybe I'll answer it when you're older'," Rayne says.5.
"If young people say something shocking, it's OK to say, 'That's surprising to me'."Still, she recommends parents stay calm and delay their gut reaction.
"The goal should be to help your child think through decisions they're going to make," she says.
ADDRESS STEREOTYPES AND GENDER DIFFERENCESOhlrichs encourages adults to take a positive approach to both male and female sexuality."Not all boys or men are going out there to have sex as much as they can," he says, noting that boys have insecurities but may struggle to express them.
"We have to make sure that boys understand that you're just as much a man if you're not experienced sexually as if you are."He also urges parents to explain that although there are no hard-and-fast distinctions, males and females might approach sexual scenarios differently.
TALK ABOUT YOUR FAMILY'S VALUESWhen Roffman talks to parents, she asks them to list at least five values they want their children to bring to all sexual situations they encounter in their lives.
She then urges them to name those values to their kids as young as possible.