When you meet someone in person, you have nonverbal cues as well as the actual qualities of the person right there in front of you to guide your judgment (the vibes, as it were).That person may lie about some important fact, such as being married, but at least you have plenty of data in front of you on which to base some sort of decision.The growth of social media encourages internet-based connections with the people we know and love and the people we would like to get to know and love.We are busier than ever at work, our jobs require that we either travel or move to new cities, and as a result, we don’t have the luxury to rely on finding a partner through connections with family or friends.Matching Online dating services pride themselves on having developed complex formulas, or algorithms, that will diagnose you and then apply this diagnosis to helping you find the perfect match uniquely qualified to be your ideal romantic partner.However, even if they could come through on their claims (which I’ll examine in a minute), think about the logic of this process.To find out how best to use online services, we first have to examine their strengths and weaknesses.Finkel and his collaborators critique the three main areas in which online dating services claim to be superior to the offline, or old-fashioned, way of meeting people in person.
Finkel and his co-authors also caution against the false belief that there is a perfect match for you out there in the online universe.
If you hold onto the false belief that you need to keep looking until you find that soulmate, you may zip past some otherwise excellent dating prospects.
Communication Because users can engage in extensive online communication (called “Computer Mediated Communication” or CMC), prior to meeting, they form impressions that may or may not correspond to those they eventually make when they see the real person.
No online personality test can predict with any more certainty how a person will react to life stresses than a real-life encounter and may even be worse.
At least when you are talking to a person in real time, your conversation can take you to places that might provide you with relevant data about how they will adapt to future stresses.