I date all the time: I have gone on countless coffee or drinks dates that have included rapid-fire questions about life, interests and backgrounds that end up feeling more like business meetings than meaningful connections.I'm tired of staying out late on a school night, I'm bored of sitting through long descriptions of video games and frankly, I'm annoyed that I'm still single in my late thirties.I bristle at the idea of paying Lee-Anne £40-£50 an hour when her training basically amounts to an online course.Can she really have any more expertise than friends or family, or even a bog-standard love manual?And those are just the people I see weekly: I've also been to nutritionists, financial planners, life coaches, astrologists.
But the first thing he told me as we sat down for a drink was that he was recovering from a recently ended marriage. I'm recalling this dating disaster a few days later to Lee-Anne Galloway, a Toronto-based dating coach who refers to herself as a 'dateologist' and is now questioning me about my romantic history.'Like, if I don't pick this person, maybe there's no one else.'Lee-Anne, who was recommended by friends, has become a dating oracle for millennials looking to untangle the knotted landscape of contemporary dating.She's a graduate of the Fast Track Coach Academy (yes, there's such a thing) and certified with the International Coach Federation – in other words, a professional life coach (as was her mother).Something about her makes her exceedingly easy to open up to.Much has been made of the idea that dating is dead among millennials, that our app-driven lives are just a trail of hook-up after hook-up.