Whatever your reasons may be, I hope this list helps you.
I know it’s far from complete, though, so that’s where you come in.
A question you may encounter is “Why even bother if saying boyfriend/girlfriend works for my relationship?
” Certain gender-neutral dating words connote a more serious relationship than “boyfriend/girlfriend.” It’s a sweet way to show the world and my partner that I’m in it for the long haul (but allows me more time to save up for an engagement ring! Gender-neutrality can also come across as mature, professional, and easier for others to comprehend.
Talk to your partners and friends, and see if you can come up with more gender-neutral dating words to add. Maddie Mc Clouskey is a former Contributing Writer for Everyday Feminism.
She’s a twenty-something lesbian in New York City and currently writes weekly dating advice pieces for the LGBTQ event app and website She Seek Online and was a regular contributor to the sexuality and feminism site Toughx Cookies.
I used to really dislike the term “partner” because to me, it evoked cowboys.
Now that I’m older and in a happy relationship, the term has grown on me because I have a partner in crime as well as a lover and monogamous girlfriend If you have a flair for the dramatic, this is a great word.
We’re both relatively feminine-presenting cis women and feel comfortable calling each other girlfriends in spaces where we know we’ll be accepted as a same-sex couple.I may have only heard that version on an episode of Will and Grace, though. However, if calling someone your “boo” doesn’t really fit into your dialect – or, worse, if it sounds like you’re mocking African-American Vernacular English when you try using it – skip out.It’s short, sweet, cute, and a gender-neutral and modernized take on the term “beau.” What’s not to like? You run the risk of sounding racist, and I won’t be taking credit for that.I love this term because it is neutral in every sense.It doesn’t have the intensity of long-term commitment or overt sexuality implicit in the other gender-neutral terms I’ve mentioned so far.