You may have been invested in this love relationship or marriage for years; now, you need to look at it objectively, with your mind and gut (not your heart).Is this the love relationship you wanted for yourself, before you met him?“And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.” That’s a wonderful suggestion for getting on with your life: take a step back and let time and space flow between you and your lost love.Below, I describe what it means to “let there be spaces in your togetherness.” Here are a few tips for healthy detachment…I had to learn how to detach from my sister, who I can’re about deeply.For others to love and respect you, you have to love and respect yourself.Can you accept your partner exactly the way he or she is right now?This is part of healthy detachment from someone you care about.
So I updated these tips to reflect a healthy detachment (or interdependence) in both existing and broken relationships. “Let there be spaces in your togetherness,” said Khalil Gibran.
To love and respect yourself, you may need to make practical changes in your life.
Maybe that means losing a few pounds, going back to school, or spending more time with people you respect.
Are you willing to do what it takes to work on your relationship (eg, marriage counseling, support groups, or reading books or taking communication classes together)?
A healthy relationship can’t happen when only one partner cares enough to try to rebuild it.